Get out and do things that are meaningful for you and keep on living your life. When the time is right you will run into someone special again. It took me a very long time before I could even think about dating again. I never thought I would be doing this but I am and I am not about to be a male spinster. Just want someone to have conversations with and to start to live again.
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I’m 57 now and training harder than ever. My only limit is the quality of the gym, and where I am now, it’s limited. Bodybuilding is passe, so gyms that cater to bodybuilding are disappearing. The area of the gym where the dumbbells (is the origin of that term derogatory?) are located and where I train my shoulder slowly clears out when I’m training there.
Even earlier on, shared or relatable “kid” experiences often bring couples closer. There is nothing wrong with dating a younger man. I’ve always loved dating older women. Please be careful, I have been there and it’s NOT fun.
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Looks help the start but mean little long term. – If you go to bars, you’re going to be far more likely to meet men with alcohol problems and who sit around too much. I really hope you find someone who isn’t selfish and who will respect you. According to what I read on the net, I’m part of an ever-increasing cohort of men of all ages who’ve drawn the same conclusion.
It is obvious you succeeded before and you will again…age is only a number. My youngest is still at university and has chosen to take a marathon runner’s approach to completing what will be 8 years of study to culminate in his PhD. So I feel free of any responsibilities of children even though I know that I have some “power freeloaders” still living at home with me. That “yet” comes from having my three children still living in the family home with me.
It seems once they think they have me locked in, out come the meat hooks. Every woman that I have dated since 2007 all said the same thing. “I can’t believe you are still single”. But they have all been cut from the same cloth.
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I had to break up with her, I wanted it to work out. The more I got to know her and after I started to take down the blinders. I realized that she had a ton of issues beyond my control.
Nevertheless, still hooked up w/ his 36 year younger office assistant. He told me he wants a woman that has dinner on the table and is educated. I had a college degree, my career was engineering sales. I waited four years before I dated again. Plus, I needed to process everything and there was A LOT!
I never ever thought ageism would be an issue, I thought it was an imagined thing. I still believe, however, in my weird optimism that out there is someone for me…someone at a similar age who can appreciate me and whom I can appreciate. In the meantime, I’m out there living my life to the fullest I’ve ever lived. Brilliant and I can relate so much to you. The 30 to 20 female to male relationship is quite an interesting one.
My mind and emotions flow which tends to alienate me from my fellows. Few can follow the threads of thought. I want a friend who can talk about Sartre to Siddhartha, politics to poetry and yet still weep and the words of Yeats. Surely there must be such a one, and yet, I may pass into infinity never knowing a mind like mine.
Total sweethearts until they think they have me locked in. I tell them upfront that I want a love life and I want to be treated how they want to be treated. I’m fully functional and I believe I’m a very generous lover. I make sure they get theirs no matter what.
Insecure, immature, not knowing what they really want. This is what I keep running up against with men, and this guy is 54 years old. You give these guys what they claim they want and they don’t want it anymore. I will be better off alone than datingranking.org/ to deal with rejection after rejection just for caring and wanting to love a man. I don’t even know if a stable, genuine man exists anymore. Just look at the very big list of demands that these very pathetic women want from men nowadays.
That’s extremely sad and I understand your fear. It’s very unfortunate that this is the case with a lot of men our age….they are afraid to get burned again. I have never lied about loving a man and I don’t understand how anyone could be so cruel. Honesty is paramount for any meaningful relationship….and I can honestly say that there are still kind hearted and loving women out there like me who can’t find a great guy like you. I hope I am not alone the rest of my life. I really crave the connection and affection I have been without for too many years now.